The most asked question by today’s generation is do looks matter in relationship or workplace or wherever you go? Every single guy or girl out there has this question in their mind. They keep looking for the answer & try out different things which will make them look better or feel better. But, what do you think is the reality? What do you think is the most important thing? Looks? Nature? Body/Beauty? Personality? Today, we will try to give our thoughts on the same.
First of all, let’s answer this question honestly. Initially we do judge people based on their looks & appearance. So, do looks matter? We can say that to some extent, looks matter. First impression is the last impression. So, our first thought is my partner should be someone who looks at least as good as me. As a common human psychology, we do think about the looks of each other.
But is it just that your facial looks are everything which is important? Is it just that how beautiful or handsome face is, that will make everything go in your favour? To be honest, it boost confidence on us, there are some cons of having goods like as well. How? For example, if you go & approach someone, the opponent will think he or she looks so good, why he or she is even talking to me instead of another person who he or she considers more beautiful or handsome than me? This thought of underestimating ourselves occurs into our mind for a while. But later we do understand that it’s not just the appearance but the nature, skills & other things. So, it is definitely not the case that looks matter.
Now, let us try to understand what exactly matters the most. What does “Looks” really mean?
The one who dresses well creates an impression. His looks may show some positivity & confidence. But when you interact with the person, and you come to know that this person is not the way he or she looks. He looks smart but through his behaviour he is dumb. This person looks confident but he was not able to perform, so the impression is not lasting. So, what are the things which you should take care of?
Number One. Your confidence is the key. If you are asked spontaneously that you need to go to a meeting or a conference and you are wearing some casual clothes or lets say you are wearing something inappropriate for the occasion, and now you are asked to say something, would you be able to do it? What would be your confidence level? If you are confident enough to speak, you will not care how you look. You will just deliver it without any problem.
Consider the reverse scenario, you are going to a meeting and you have dressed absolutely fine. You are in a perfect suit, trimmed or clean shave, high quality perfume & everything. But you are not sure about how well you will perform. You are not sure about your preparation. You underperform. In this case, people will not be impressed even though you are looking great. So, try to wear confidence in your life. Try to look Confident & not just handsome.
Number Two. Behave. If you are wearing good suit or long and beautiful dress but you are not behaving responsibly, then no matter how costly your outfit or how costly your makeup is, you are not going to be appreciated, you are not going to look good in other peoples opinion. But if you are someone who is behaving in a right way at right place and at right time, your looks are last thing you need to care about. No matter what, you will be appreciated.
Number Three. Look at how are you talking. Are you talking everyone with same respect and attention? Or you are discriminating people based on their looks? are you able to continue the conversation in a friendly, funny & healthy way? People should aim at their ability of carrying any conversation. You have to be able to do this in order to look good in front of others. Remember not to use your looks as an excuse to take yourself out of the game.
To conclude, Looks does not mean how your face is looking. It is more than that. It is about your face, your appearance, your behaviour and other things. Spend some time on your appearance and not just look. Appear well, behave well & communicate well. That matters.